(0:00)Honor vs. Money
I'm not bound to give you money. I'm not. Honoring you is not equal to giving you money. You see what I'm trying to say? Yeah. Honoring you is treating you with respect. It is treating you with honor. Is not equal to money. Do you get my point? Yeah. I have a responsibility to support you. But I support you to the extent that I have the ability to support you. Unfiltered.
(0:26)Welcome to PF Unfiltered
Hello and welcome to another episode of PF Unfiltered. My name is Tunde Makanjuola. I'm joined. Why are you laughing? I can't see. I'm joined by my co-host Esther. Yeah, something happened before I and then also joined by Pastor Femi, the PF PF on. Yeah. Rappers, please. Are you clapping over there? You better have some claps. So, in this episode, we're we'll do something a little different. We've been listening to uh the audience. Yeah. And they got a lot to say on the platforms. And they've they've there a lot of comments, a lot of good things people have to say, a lot of questions people have. So, we're going to use this episode to kind of like listen. Mhm. Some of you guys need to repent. Yeah. Some of you guys, but let's be uh and we we also need to repent as well. So, it's not just you. All of us should repent. What are we equalizing? I'm not equalizing. I'm not joining you there. But uh real quick um before we start with the first question, PF, I want to take the time to uh ask our listeners, our viewers, right, to to subscribe.
(1:39)The Power of Subscribing
Yes. And I say this because if you feel like you cannot contribute to the kingdom, you know, financially, financially, the algorithm you can also contribute to the algorithm by subscribing to the podcast and then that way you can expose the kingdom. Yes. To the world. Yes. Come on, guys. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. That was I I I didn't realize that we're asking people for money. No, we're not asking them for money. I'm just saying like sometimes people are like, "Let me I want to sponsor. I want to but and they're like it's hard for me. I don't have cash. Okay. So I'm like if you're that person I don't have in lieu of sponsorship. Exactly. In lieu of there's no in lieu of sponsorship. I mean if you can I'm just kidding. But if you're a joiner you can't like obviously you know subscribe so the algorithm will— don't be like Pastor Larry and if you know Pastor Larry, Pastor is one of the advisers of one of the fastest growing churches in advisor. What are you talking about? He's the COO. If I say advisor no don't count. Advisor is like a big boy. It's not. No, it's not. Who told you that? Like a trustee to get. Pastor L is the COO of one of the fastest churches in Dallas, New Covenant House. Okay. Okay. We have it. We have it. Shout out. Um, he put his information. No, we must put his picture on the picture so they can see the problem. Uh, okay. So, um, do you want me to go with question one? You want to go with question one? No, let me go with question one. Okay.
(3:07)Dealing With Unwise Parents
So, um, here's a question from YouTube, and it was based on one of our previous episodes where we're talking about parenting and boundaries, and Prissy said, "How do we deal with a parent who makes poor financial decisions affecting the family? Um, pressures you into following their plans, dismisses your advice, but listens to others while you're building your own life. How do you honor them while um setting healthy boundaries?" I I think it's important to distinguish between lives. Mhm. Right. You have your life to live. They have their life to live. Yeah. Right. And the sooner you live your life, let them live their lives. I don't see the issue. Right. What they do with their money is their problem. Mhm. But when they ask you for money, then it becomes your own problem. Not really. If you don't have it, you don't have it. Pastor AK is saying, "Choose yourself." I'm saying I'm saying that you can't be responsible for the choices other people make. Right. That's true. Yeah. Yeah. And if they make choices that are not good Mhm. Right. then that's on them. But what about when it is affecting the family to her point? Who is the family? Okay. So are you so so if you are dependent on them if you're dependent on them. Yeah. Right. That means that they are making choices that affect you. Right. Because you are dependent on them. Mhm. That's a problem. Why are you dependent on them? Okay. Right. Why don't you go and live your life like you said, right? Get a job. I have another question. So, wait. Get a job. Yeah. If I am feeding you, you have no right to tell me what I do with my money. Mhm. So, if your parents are feeding you, right? You're the person with boundary issues. Yeah. You know what I'm trying to say? And but you're saying if it's the other way around, if you are feeding your parents for whatever reason, Yes. Mhm. Then they don't have a right to tell you what to do with your right. You just say so if you are under their roof eating their food. Mhm. Right. You have no right to get into their finances if they ask for your opinion or your advice and they choose not to take it. That is their prerogative. Mhm. You just say so the framing of the question for me is a bit is a bit weird. How are they making financial decisions that are impacting you if you are living separate lives financially? Right, my father is, you know, he's living his life paying his bills, right? I'm living my life, paying my bills. His income is his income, my income is my income. You say now, if he needs me, right? To the extent that I am able, I will assist him. you get what I'm trying to say but I'm not going to sit down with him and say so what are you doing with your money no but do you ever feel I mean I think your dad made pretty good decisions. But what about for those parents that don't? And
(5:54)When Parents Cause Debt
this is the best example I can give. So when I was growing up, yeah, my parents used to get these auction cars, right, in DC and me and my siblings, we always used to tell them that these auction cars always end up breaking down, right? Maybe you have you'll buy them maybe for like $3,000 and then after like a year, even prior to that year, you already have major issues, right? So over the years, we would tell them not to get this car, right? But they needed a car, they needed to move around. eventually we we start having to say let's help to pump money into this car that we know is a no good car. So then it's not helpful to the entire family because we're now pumping money into a car that we told you wasn't going to be good but because you're a parent you felt like it was going to be a great car or whatever the case may be. Now your fin now your financial decision or poor decision is affecting our coins. So what about what do you do in those type of circumstances? So, so if if you are buying a car that I say right is uh is a money pit. Mhm. Right. I have to, you are making, you are exercising your own choice, your own right to buy the car. Mhm. I will exercise my own right and choice to the extent that I will help you maintain the car. I'm not bound Mhm. right to give you money. Yeah. I'm not. Honoring you is not equal to giving you money. Mhm. You see what I'm trying to say? Yeah. Honoring you is treating you with respect, right? It is treating you with honor. It is not equal to money. You get my point? Yeah. I have a responsibility to support you, but I support you to the extent that I have the ability to support you. Right? If you buy a car, right, you do the math, you you do your math and buy the car, right? If you're including me in your math without my consent, which is parents do that. Yeah. If you're including me in your math without my consent, right, that is on you. And this is the the the the the point I'm trying to make, right? That you are the one that is choosing to engage in that interaction like that. There's no scriptural compulsion that says if my dad buys a car that is going to um um um break down in 2 weeks and I told him Yeah, that's true. not to buy the car comes to me right and then he now says he now comes to me and says hey that car you told me is going to break down in two weeks new engine it needs a brand new engine this is what I would do right because I'm a Christian yeah I'm really sorry you're in this position Right. Unfortunately, all I have is X and I know X is not enough to buy a brand new engine, but here's X and God will provide the rest.
(8:39)Confidence in Boundaries
So like practically speaking for me, how do I cult? I'm like pre how do I cultivate that confidence to look my parent that has been there for me again when I was obviously under their roof or her roof cuz my dad is now but and then I'm still looking at this is my parents. So even though I want them to not buy that car or do whatever action they did, it's still my mom and I feel bad or I feel inclined to and I hear what you're saying like I need to be able to be I need to be able to not I guess down your emotions are based on your thoughts. Okay, you're feeling bad because you're thinking certain things. You can say no to somebody respectfully and lovingly. Okay. So you're encouraging me I guess in this context to stand up for yourself to do what you think right? Yeah. If somebody is not acting in your best interest uh right you have a responsibility to act in your best interest. Do you understand? So you're saying so even if even if I decide to help my parents it should be in my best interest. You know where it's like no help them to the extent that you are able. Right. to the extent that you are able and if if your dad buys a car right that is an unwise decision that you have already said is you had the conviction lovingly said that this is an unwise decision and then he insists on pursuing that path right if he runs into trouble on that path right and comes back to you I think mercy grace whatever right calls you to like okay you know what you made a bad decision right but this This is how much I can this is what I can do for you. I'm not going to give you the money that I was planning to use to feed to feed my children because I feel bad. Yes. No, I'm not going to do that. And the reason why I don't feel bad is because I know right I I I know a what the Bible says and b I know the facts of the matter right now. If I choose to not follow what I know, if I choose to be um um swayed by, oh, he's done so much for me, she's done so much for me, then that's on me. You just say that's on me. That's me allowing myself, right, to is it's not Listen, if you put your head down, right, and somebody steps on it, whose fault is it? I have a head. Is it the person that stepped on your head or you that put your head down? Yeah, fair. You get my point? So, so you can't blame a parent. If I'm in distress, I will use all the levers available to me to get out of the distress, right? It's up to the people involved to make a decision for themselves.
(11:20)Stop Clocking My Money
I, I also think that we are sometimes, especially when it comes to like finances with our parents, we're too loose because I think sometimes they clock our money. What? What you mean? Okay. You know my lingo. So essentially like we're too loose with the way that we share information with our parents sometimes, especially when they have already displayed patterns of financial instability or making bad financial decisions. An example of that would be, let's say you want to buy a house. You're preparing to buy a house, right? So you say, "Oh, I've saved this much, this amount of money or I've done this." And then because now a bad situation happens, they're like, "Oh, but you have essentially you have this money. How come you can't give us this money?" And they now say, "But you're now abandoning the family." Now that narrative starts because they've been clocking your money. I think I think first of all, right, it's unwise on on your part to go around announcing how much money you have. But it's to your parents though to anybody. Yeah. Except your spouse, right? It's not information that they need. They don't need that information. The key I'm trying to say, they don't need it. They they they if my my daughters work and at the point of um oh they they're applying for this job, they're applying for that job. How much does it pay? How much does it pay? That's the only time I ask them how much they earn. Right after that, what they do with their money, how much there is left after, I have no idea. And that information they give me is oh they pay $20 per hour, they pay $25 per hour. What it comes to monthly, I'm not going to sit down and do the math. Mhm. You get what I'm trying to say, right? They are not obligated to come and tell me, "Dad, I have X amount in my account." Mhm. Now, if they come to me and say, "Dad, I need to buy a house." Right? I'm going to ask, "How much have you saved?" Mhm. If you ask me for help, right? Or anybody comes and says, "Uh, Femi, give me $20. I need $20." I'm like, "How much do you have?" If you say you have five, I will give you five. But that is the context in which that information comes to the fore. Yeah. Right. But if you're going around willy-nilly telling people, "Oh, I've saved 200k." Well, if they come back and tell you that 200k that you saved, bring some of it. That's on you. That's number one. You have been unwise in indulging information. And it's not about whether they are responsible or irresponsible people. It's just some things are private. Your bank account balance is private. Period. And if you are old enough to work and save money, then you're old enough to have the right to privacy. Yeah, you hear is like to keep it to make it scriptural. I can be gentle like a dove but I should be I don't like the word "should." I'd rather Yes implies shifty. Shifty, okay. Right. You should be, you should be, you should be wise. Wise. You should be wise. Is is there's some things that are not meant for public. I don't I say public, I mean anybody other than you and your spouse's concern. Assumed. Mhm. Right. And if you're married, how are your parents knowing how much is in your account? I mean, it's a question for for some people, it's how much they think they owe their parents. Now, whether it's Rational or not is different. Well, I can't speak to that. Yes. Yes. It's I can't speak to that. You you have to make that decision. But I'm talking from what does the scripture say? You owe your parents. Yeah. Right. Just sometimes. So, if you feel like, you know what, I owe my parents my kidneys, my liver, my heart. I I I can't speak to that because some people might be like, "Oh, they did they did X and XYZ for me when I was Let me tell you something. My father, my
(14:54)Generosity Beyond Obligation
my own personal father, right, my biological father when I moved to America, right, with my wife, my father gave me, he supported my family, right, for at least a year, almost two years. And he did support us just enough. He supported us over and above. If I needed $2,000, my father sent me $4,000. Right. He supported my family. He supported the ministry. He was paying the rent for the church. Right. Yeah. And as a consequence of all that money that he spent on me, right, when he retired, he didn't have anything. He didn't have he spent all his money on his kids. Wow. Right now. It is not a question of honor for me. Mhm. It's a question of love. Right. This man, I love this man and he has sown in my life. Right. Nobody can tell me not to do for him. Nobody. Right. Even your wife. My wife can't tell me because my wife benefited from everything he did. So how what is she's going to say let him be homeless, right? What if she doesn't? Okay, we we know that we love Pastor AK, so we know we're just using as an example, but like what if she was resistant to even if she knows what he did that she's a bad person. Ah, no, she is now. No, because think about it now. When you wait, let me give you an example of of this is a No, seriously. And she's listening to this. So, so imagine this, right? I gave you an example of of $2,000 $4,000, right? that those are real numbers. Our living expenses at the time was about $1,000, $2,000. But my father was like, "You took this girl from her father." Mhm. Right. You brought her to America. She cannot suffer. So here's extra, right? Yeah. So that it will not be as if you are just barely paying your bills. Mhm. Right. Meeting expectations. Do you understand? That's what he did. Yeah. One day Pastor AK and my dad went to they were in a store and Pastor AK saw a watch that she liked and she said, "Oh, this is a nice watch." Right? And everybody looked at it and thought, "Oh, this is a nice watch." Fast forward then that store later on, you know, my father did, he bought her a watch, the same type, but probably costing five times the one she liked. Like it was more expensive. Much more expensive. Pastor. Right. That that the one she said she liked, right? Cuz she liked the cheapest one that he bought the top of the line one. Right. For her to then turn around and say the man is okay. Let him be homeless. Yeah. Joe, that's why I said she would be and Pastor AK is the exact opposite of that. Pastor AK is the person who's going to be like, Femi, you haven't sent money to your dad. Mhm. Make sure you send it because when he had he did more than was required of him. Right. So now that I have a little bit, there's there's I What am I saying no for? Speaking of that, if I don't have if I don't have Yes. If I don't have, then God must have another plan. But speaking of that, this episode is
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(20:02)Faith in a Political Crisis
there's one question that we got that is not on here, but I wanted to kind of address and I want you to address as quickly as you can, obviously. Um, someone was talking about how I can't remember the specific context but given the current political climate Mhm. and they they are struggling in their faith because uh with all the inconsistency going on in the world and they made certain choices back then when from a voting standpoint that they thought was a good choice and now they regretting that choice and is actually affecting them on a personal level. Mhm. They also said that they have a certain their heart towards the current administration is getting uh cold and they know that it's not really cold. It's getting cold. They don't say those interesting. They said they know that they know that like the Bible says something about how we should pray for our leaders and stuff. No, no, no. It's easy to love those that do you good, right? They don't know how to condone obviously what they're doing, but to love your enemies, right? M um so they don't know how to deal with that the cognitive dissonance or spiritual dissonance. Yeah. So do you have any words? Do I have what kind of words? No, I don't know. Pastoral words or words? No, pastoral words. P words around pastoral words. Yeah, pastoral words. Cuz again, like there's a lot of say so so so this this is the thing, right? Yeah. This is the thing. You have to divorce your emotions from these things, right? You have to look at it from a rational perspective, right? And leaders come, leaders go, politicians come, politicians go. They get four years and when they are there, they do a ton of stuff. Their four years was almost over. It goes by like this and do better next time. That's it. I appreciate that. Yeah. I also want to say that like God, sorry, God is not calling you to love. When I say love, I don't mean love agape. I mean love, enamored love like oh my God, that's why our leader is such a no no the Bible says pray for the peace of Jerusalem. I pray for wisdom for the leadership of this country and because their decisions affect me I feel no positive emotion towards them right, um, but I pray for them because they affect me. Makes sense. God has not called me to sing love songs to them, right? Or write poems about them. He's called me to pray for them, right? And that's what I do. Do you get? I don't pray for them from a place of, "Oh my God, he's such a great." No, I pray for them from God, give them wisdom. Let them make wise decisions. And when I see a decision that I think is not wise, I'm like, God, help them so that their foolishness does not affect me. Right. There's no stain. I get it. I get it. So, I get how this person feels, but I wish people would make honest decisions. Right? When you're voting in an election and you vote out of mass hysteria, whether it's the mass hysteria of your church or the mass hysteria of your community or the mass hysteria of your ethnicity, right? You're looking for trouble. Yeah. Do your research. If somebody says I'm great on the economy, what is the basis of that? Right? What research have you done? And research for a lot of these politicians is not is not that difficult to find. Mhm. Their track record is not that difficult to find. So, let me give you a classic example. A lot of people will tell you that they vote for Republicans on the basis of the economy, right? That Republicans are better for the economy, right? I had never heard such a lie statistically, right? Every Republican president has grown the deficit and every Democratic president has reduced it. Right? The economy has always done better under the Democrats. Right? So if you are doing research, right? This is what you will find. But people are not doing research. They're voting for the economy. Mhm. Right. Without doing the research on the economy. Then we have to ask yourself what are you really voting about, right? It's not the economy, because the information about the economy is there at your fingertips. Do you get what I'm saying? I I think this particular person was very vulnerable about the unwiseness of the action they made in the past and was looking for a way, not necessarily to reconcile it, but I think I wouldn't necessarily even say 'cause I made sense for the next for the next three for how many more years of this particular situation, how many more years two years for next few years they're going to live with that choice right but I think I don't want to hold on to the stupidity of the choice I think they're trying to in from reconciliation they're trying to say That's the way forward for me. The way forward for you is just to pray. Okay. That that the the you know that the proverbial issue does not touch you, right? That's that's just the way forward. No. And it's it's a powerful because at the end of the day it is what it is. Right. But I am talking about how we got here so that we don't repeat right. A lot of people voted out of mass hysteria out of dislike out of lot people vote out of hate. Right. A candidate stands up and represents your hate. But you can't come out and say I'm voting for this guy out of hate. You you saying you voted for them out of the economy and that for me is such a lie because again all the historical record is there is there you get what I'm trying to say. So just it what about the countries where you vote
(25:44)Does My Vote Actually Count?
but your vote doesn't count. Well I I I think I think that it's a good point. Yeah, I think that I think that you vote anyway. Okay. I think that you vote anyway because one day your vote will count. Right. I think that if enough people vote and enough people vote for the right person, it gets harder for the wrong person to claim. Do you get? Yeah. It's it's hard to, if PF all of us in this room, right, vote for Matias, right? It's difficult for somebody to come and say we didn't. They can. Mhm. But they will work. Yeah. You get after a while that work becomes impossible to do. All right. Because there are just too many people. Right. There was a time when elections were rigged and there was no blowback. There was no question. Mhm. But now it has become very difficult to do it. They still do it but it's not as easy as it used to be and it's going to keep getting more and more and more difficult. So they think twice before they do it now. Yes. It's getting more and more difficult to do it and you can't do it at the level that it used to be done. Hopefully by God's grace we'll get to a point where your vote counts. Yeah. I'm just I get the message I'm getting from this is still, still do focus on things. I mean, yeah, like 'cause even if that you can't control the outcome. Don't let somebody's evil determine your good. Thank you, Super English. Segment two. Yeah. Um, this is not—these are not questions. These are more like reactions. Yep. Um, so I'm just going to say a few comments and then we can react. No, I can react as I, as you, as you see fit. As you see fit, PF Unfiltered.
(27:32)Parenting and Reverence
Comment number one, um, from Ruan Barua338. Honor in a relationship between parents and their adult children, especially married ones, is not obedience but reverence. I agree. Nice. But you have to be careful with reverence, right? Right. Because sometimes reverence can become reticence. English is even reverence can become like capture. I know, man, like a person is somebody who pulls back, who steps back. Oh, okay. Okay. You know, so you don't speak up. You don't speak your mind. You know, I think PF did that where they say the thing, you know, you have to find your brain was like let me just make the you know reference you rhyme. Yeah. No but you have to your produce is your produce. Okay. Those things that you know I'm talking about. Have you ever heard me preaching? No, not you. I'm just saying but but you get the point I'm making that you do have to be careful. Yeah. Right. Because reverence can you can go too far. Right. But again, respect honor is not the same as obedience. Mhm. You can't you can't use them interchangeably. They're two different things. So I agree with that comment. Okay. What about this one from Lore B. What is the point of speaking French to people who only speak German?
(29:00)Communicating in Marriage
He's quoting you said that. I think he said in relation to what? Marriage. That's what we're talking about. We're talking about I think this communication or something like that. Yeah, we're talking about communication and just how like love languages, right? So, if you're Why would you be speaking German I mean French to somebody that speaks German and trying to love them? I I I agree. But I think that you should the goal of speaking at all is to communicate. Okay. Right. So if I'm speaking French and you speak German, the hope is that the French speaker and the German speaker are doing the work to learn each other's language. Right. That's the thing. Yeah. Yeah. So when we say what's the point of speaking French to somebody who speaks German, what we're trying to say is that communication has a goal. Right. And the goal is for the other person to understand you. Right. Right. Some of us just want to say that we spoke. I I I told you. You told me in a way that was impossible for me to hear. So technically, did you really tell me? Yeah. Yeah. My wife, my wife and I, we have this thing where I tell her when she's talking to me and she starts to raise her voice, right? She says she's doing it out of when she gets passionate, her voice goes up. I find it extremely disrespectful, right? I literally stop hearing anything you're saying. So if you want to talk to me and you start to shout, do you really want to talk to me? You know, it just happens unconsciously. Okay. No, you know, no, you don't want to talk to me. If you want to talk to me, if you want to talk to me, it just happened. If you want me to hear what you're saying, if you want me to hear, if if you think to yourself, I want to communicate with Femi and you start shouting. But she didn't start shouting. Yeah. So like for me I know the voice just started to the volume just started to get that that claim has been made to me sometimes when I I'm emotionally charged and I'm trying to get a point out I'm raising my voice right and I'm talking like this raising my voice and the person is like we always tell you to calm down which I understand maybe I think I'm trying to talk to you well at that point no you've stopped you stopped trying to talk to me at some point you made a decision that you communicating with me is no longer useful to I don't think it was that quick. No, it was because because because you see when you go to work Yeah. right trying to talk to your boss. No matter how frustrated you get with your boss, you don't raise your voice. Yeah. Well, because no matter how passionate you get one topic, there are rules of engagement in the workplace. Oh, really? And there are no rules of engagement in the marriage. Better no. There are rules of engagement at home. But the same even my boss cannot talk to me because I can have no regard for your spouse. Most of us know you have no regard for your spouse. Come on. No, because if you're talking to me, you're talking to your spouse and then I don't even know you. But but you get what I'm saying? You're talking to your wife, right? You're talking to your wife or your husband, right? And you you you're getting frustrated, right? Yeah. But you came to that conversation with the only agenda was communication, right? And your your voice is starting to go up and somebody says, "Hey, you're starting to yell." Right. Yeah. That's a signal for you to calm down. No, I do. Whenever people say that I do, when they say sounds too much, I I I I calm down. But a lot of time they just they tuned out. Yeah, because again again like I said, why do you want to speak French when I only speak German? Shut up. Yeah. Okay. Uh this one is listening. He's a good guy. Yeah. I no many people are many people are this particular one before we go to like the shout outs to to our listeners this one was like a like a a good one I think just saying thank you. Mhm. uh because they learn a lot from from from the podcast and I hope this person is saying thank you at that's why I left you to it Enugu 909 I hope you're a subscriber um so you can get more videos and get more impacted okay read the comments now I did thank you guys I really do learn a lot from your videos okay we're glad that the Lord has used us to bless you. Amen. Yes. All right. Subscribe. Yeah. So, next segment we're doing um it's highlights from like our uh money episode. Okay. Oh, yeah. Before we do that, let's quickly throw a few shout outs. I want to shout out to my big shout out to my boy Kyo Day in the UK. Big M. You get me? Shout out to you. Uh big shout out to, you know, actually there's so many names. I'm just going to call the countries in the England, Nigeria, Dallas, DMV. Lesotho, South
(33:36)Shoutouts to Our Audience
Africa. Um, we're getting viewers from Lesotho. No, I I didn't like what you mean problem. I knew you going to say I mean it's a decent country. Sorry. Yeah. Okay. Uh now we can do that. Let's do it. Cool.
(34:10)Bentleys and Church Money
So um this this uh segment is um is the episode where we're talking about you know how much money is enough money. And so there's a comment that says Jesus covers the person who asks PF if he bought a Bentley with church money. And then they have the laughing emojis. I think I don't accuse you of money. I better not. I'll find them. But but you know, people ask questions. All right. I think nobody's ever accused me of this or like pastors or whatever. But there's just this general, you know, pastors and all that and and it's very hard to say to your face, you know, that's that's your watch. The other day, now you have new watch. Yeah, the the watch is great. The baby knows my offering that is for that watch and then we have words and that person. No, that has never happened. Okay, that's good. It's funny cuz I heard a commentator recently talk about how um people like are outraged when people give a lot of money to the church, but then when you hear people giving like monies to like all of these like adult clubs and stuff like that, nobody's outraged. I thought it was interesting. I I I I think I think that I think that's that yeah the hypocrisy of just very amusing you know it's funny there's a comment by Tunde Makanjuola that kind of seconds this.
(35:36)The Pastor Suicide Crisis
This person said I grew up hearing hearing that tithing 10% was automatic the pastoral lifestyle question mark I think we expect pastors who struggle financially to prove their spiritual prowess is in quotation marks but we don't see the hours, the pressure, responsibility behind the scenes. So fair compensation is not equal to greed. I agree. I mean if if you know the number of pastors that commit suicide, it's it's it's an interesting statistic. A lot you're more likely to commit suicide as a pastor than most careers. I have a question. Why if you're holding on to Jesus where's the you know the humanity? Because you're a human being. Yeah, you're a human being and and and and the experience that you are having, the same experience I'm having right? And waiting, waiting, right? I have in this world I'm having problems. You're having problems, right? But then you don't have the extra burden of people talking about you and saying negative things about you when you are trying to help them. Yeah. Right. Like I said a few days ago in church, the average church in America is less than 100 people. Come when you talk about churches you think every church is 25,000. 100 people, that includes children. Oh. Right. So how much money is there if everybody how much money is there to actually steal, to actually steal? I think I can run a church. I had 80 people in my house for my son's birthday. 80 people. The Bible says be careful. I think it's in James 3 was talking about the scrutiny and the the judgment of people, the way people judge you. That's the thing. We are all going through the same problems, just don't have the extra judgment. Yeah. So your calling, it's like you're living in a fishbowl and the people outside the fishbowl are looking for an excuse to say something negative about you, right? It's a very you just have to make sure that God has called you to do this. If you enter this because you're looking for money, you'll be very surprised how quickly that it's not like that. It's not like that. You stand up and you ask people give, give, give. And when you finish asking, you go and ask the accountant how much people gave, maybe Level 2. Wow. I mean, again, if you if you're struggling to give, you shouldn't give. Yeah. It's not that you can't struggle to subscribe. I'm just saying. But just to appreciate just to appreciate the the listeners. We appreciate you guys for the comments. Keep them coming. We'll try our best to obviously have episodes so we can exclusively like like address the questions that you have. I want to take a quick second. Also appreciate you. Yeah. Right. Thank you. You know some people it's very important because some people in this diaspora they don't I I feel unappreciated very on their behalf appreciate you. You shouldn't feel unappreciated we appreciate you and a lot of people in the audience also appreciate you. Thank God for different countries cuz left to some people I'd just be feeling under under and well guys like subscribe share um comment as always where I think I think I'm feeling the love you you're feeling the love you are feeling So, I feel good. Yeah, your birthday's coming up. Yeah.
(39:26)A Birthday Goal
My birthday. Yeah. April 12. I would order 57. Can we get to 57K subscribers? Best birthday gift you can ever give. That's the best birthday gift you can get. No, no, no, no. It's a good one. He does the investing that's a dead it's it's a he see you next time please Unfiltered